As an individual who is always aware of his surroundings, I often listen and observe everything that is going on around me. A common aspect of today's society I have noticed, is kids swearing. All the time like second nature! But the problem lies not with the kids, but at home.
I strongly believe, if you allow your kids to use foul language at home, where primary socialisation takes place, it will eventually spiral out of control. Give it a good couple of years down the line and the parents will be saying, "How I wish my kid was better". It all starts at home.
Being lenient and soft is one thing, but being a bad parent is another. Too many people do not discipline the youth. I have often encountered rude kids who just love answering you back, whilst at work. The cheekiness is beyond comprehension at times! You end up thinking to yourself, is this how they always are?
The other day at work, I was walking past a family with kids of which the eldest was probably around 6. All I heard was the father use the word 'crap'. I mean it's not a rude word, but is it a good word? Should elders not set an example? We often complain about disobedient youths, but what about the elders in society? Respect isn't just given, it is earned. This doesn't just apply to parents, but elder siblings too. Younger siblings always look up to elder siblings and it is a fact. If any of you guys are elder siblings, please look out for the example you set.
Technology also influences highly. Kids of the age of 3 know how to use smart phones better than I do! And I have witnessed, the usage of technology, ruining the mouth of a kid. Watching Youtube videos and learning swears and then when talking to others, of course, showing what has been learnt. It's never too late to change, but what is ingrained in you from a young age, pretty much stays with us for most of our lives so isn't it better to stop it before it starts? If you are aware of your siblings or children using technology, look out for them and check what they are doing and if it is any good. It is not controlling, but rather being protective.
As fouls language affected me for most of my younger, ignorant days, it is a subject that I have strong views about. If you're reading this and thinking, "Yes, I do use a lot of foul language", know, that it is never too late to stop. Foul language only degrades your character in front of others. No benefits whatsoever.
Wednesday, 27 August 2014
Controlling anger
This blog post is well overdue as it involves an incident that occurred nearly two weeks ago now. It was something that had me instantly thinking about what I had done and the benefits that came out of the situation.
As some of you know, I am a Lifeguard for the City Council on a part-time basis along with my studies. On this particular evening two weeks ago on the Tuesday, I was working. As it is currently the summer holidays, swimming sessions tend to be rather busier than during term time. This particular session, had at least 50+ people! There was absolutely no room to swim for anyone.
A customer moved over towards me to enquire about something. He enquired about placing a lane rope out for swimmers who wanted to swim lengths. As it wasn't a lane swimming session, we are bound by rules enforced on us not to put lanes out. So I simply said to this man, that we couldn't put the lanes out and told him the reasons. He moved away but swiftly returned once more. Asking the same question again but a little more aggressively, suggesting that we were not being fair in what we were doing. Giving a similar response, when he came the third time, demanding lanes once more in a forceful manner, I became a little flustered. Raising my voice, I told him if he didn't want to swim with the kids around, to just leave! As he moved away, I muttered "Twat!"
As soon as those words came out of my mind, I thought to myself, what have you said? What was the need for that? How have you benefited from it? If you guys don't know, my mouth used to be really filthy a couple of years ago. I used to swear a lot and it was really constant. for almost a year now, I have been attempting to change my vocabulary and am 99% free from that swearing mouth I had. Currently still trying to better myself, this moment put me 10 steps backwards in my goals.
You may think I'm making a mountain out of a mole hole but truly, sinning is so easy we just don't think about it. A couple of years ago I would have thought nothing of this. But the smaller you make a sin, the bigger and bigger it will only get. And the point of my narration is to tell you all, we should really grasp a hold on our anger. I mean I don't get angry angry and the last time I actually got angry was around 5years ago! But we all have moments when things slip through our mouths and everyone can relate to this. We might think, one phrase isn't a lot, but add up all your phrases and just see for yourselves how plentiful they become.
A little side note. I have a friend from Twitter who has climbed up Ben Nevis in aid for Gaza on the Sunday that has gone. An additional £70 is required to reach the target levels of funds to raise. Please donate and keep the Ummah in your duas. Our help should never come to a standstill! To donate, follow the link below;
https://mydonate.bt.com/fundraisers/humairaali#
As some of you know, I am a Lifeguard for the City Council on a part-time basis along with my studies. On this particular evening two weeks ago on the Tuesday, I was working. As it is currently the summer holidays, swimming sessions tend to be rather busier than during term time. This particular session, had at least 50+ people! There was absolutely no room to swim for anyone.
A customer moved over towards me to enquire about something. He enquired about placing a lane rope out for swimmers who wanted to swim lengths. As it wasn't a lane swimming session, we are bound by rules enforced on us not to put lanes out. So I simply said to this man, that we couldn't put the lanes out and told him the reasons. He moved away but swiftly returned once more. Asking the same question again but a little more aggressively, suggesting that we were not being fair in what we were doing. Giving a similar response, when he came the third time, demanding lanes once more in a forceful manner, I became a little flustered. Raising my voice, I told him if he didn't want to swim with the kids around, to just leave! As he moved away, I muttered "Twat!"
As soon as those words came out of my mind, I thought to myself, what have you said? What was the need for that? How have you benefited from it? If you guys don't know, my mouth used to be really filthy a couple of years ago. I used to swear a lot and it was really constant. for almost a year now, I have been attempting to change my vocabulary and am 99% free from that swearing mouth I had. Currently still trying to better myself, this moment put me 10 steps backwards in my goals.
You may think I'm making a mountain out of a mole hole but truly, sinning is so easy we just don't think about it. A couple of years ago I would have thought nothing of this. But the smaller you make a sin, the bigger and bigger it will only get. And the point of my narration is to tell you all, we should really grasp a hold on our anger. I mean I don't get angry angry and the last time I actually got angry was around 5years ago! But we all have moments when things slip through our mouths and everyone can relate to this. We might think, one phrase isn't a lot, but add up all your phrases and just see for yourselves how plentiful they become.
A little side note. I have a friend from Twitter who has climbed up Ben Nevis in aid for Gaza on the Sunday that has gone. An additional £70 is required to reach the target levels of funds to raise. Please donate and keep the Ummah in your duas. Our help should never come to a standstill! To donate, follow the link below;
https://mydonate.bt.com/fundraisers/humairaali#
Sunday, 17 August 2014
The example of worldly life ..
Throughout the Quran, Allah gives many examples of what the world of this life is to us. I'd like to share one of these ayats with you and encourage you to ponder over it.
Surah Yunus, (10:24)
"The example of [this] worldly life is but like rain which We have sent down from the sky that the plants of the earth absorb - [those] from which men and livestock eat - until, when the earth has taken on its adornment and is beautified and its people suppose that they have capability over it, there comes to it Our command by night or by day, and We make it as a harvest, as if it had not flourished yesterday. Thus do We explain in detail the signs for a people who give thought."
Surah Yunus, (10:24)
"The example of [this] worldly life is but like rain which We have sent down from the sky that the plants of the earth absorb - [those] from which men and livestock eat - until, when the earth has taken on its adornment and is beautified and its people suppose that they have capability over it, there comes to it Our command by night or by day, and We make it as a harvest, as if it had not flourished yesterday. Thus do We explain in detail the signs for a people who give thought."
Tuesday, 12 August 2014
Take it or leave it
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you've found yourself on the receiving end of advice without ever asking for it? Pretty sure it has happened plenty a time for most of us. Some of us take it well whilst others not so well. The following post is more about how we should react instead of how we give the advice.
We often have our downs and it is a part of life. Others close to us, whilst observing can notice when we feel down and often offer their support. At least once, we have all felt so irritated that we do not wish to speak to anyone let alone receive any support. We're in one of those, 'Leave me alone!' moods. It's okay, we've all been there! Sometimes we need to just stop and think that the person offering support, is only wishing the best for us.
I have noticed a lot, from either the mouths of others or whilst stalking on Twitter (I do this a lot), that many do not respond to such advice so well. Either intentions are doubted by assuming the giver is trying to act superior than the other or it is simply not appreciated.
From my stance, I welcome any advice and feel any sort of advice given can be beneficial in some way or the other. If someone gives us advice, we should not doubt their intentions. We should always assume the best of others. Maybe if we sat and contemplated the advice we are given, we may be able to utilise it in a way we wouldn't have comprehended before. Doubting intentions can often lead to assuming bad characteristics. Having this seed of doubt can ruin any relation and this is Shaitaan messing with the head.
The solution I propose, whether you are in a calm state or not, is to listen it out. Listen to what the person has to say, appreciate it and take it at face value. It is not for us to doubt intentions. Whether we want to take the advice on board is up to us. It's a simple 'take it or leave it' and get on with life, happy and cheerful!
We often have our downs and it is a part of life. Others close to us, whilst observing can notice when we feel down and often offer their support. At least once, we have all felt so irritated that we do not wish to speak to anyone let alone receive any support. We're in one of those, 'Leave me alone!' moods. It's okay, we've all been there! Sometimes we need to just stop and think that the person offering support, is only wishing the best for us.
I have noticed a lot, from either the mouths of others or whilst stalking on Twitter (I do this a lot), that many do not respond to such advice so well. Either intentions are doubted by assuming the giver is trying to act superior than the other or it is simply not appreciated.
From my stance, I welcome any advice and feel any sort of advice given can be beneficial in some way or the other. If someone gives us advice, we should not doubt their intentions. We should always assume the best of others. Maybe if we sat and contemplated the advice we are given, we may be able to utilise it in a way we wouldn't have comprehended before. Doubting intentions can often lead to assuming bad characteristics. Having this seed of doubt can ruin any relation and this is Shaitaan messing with the head.
The solution I propose, whether you are in a calm state or not, is to listen it out. Listen to what the person has to say, appreciate it and take it at face value. It is not for us to doubt intentions. Whether we want to take the advice on board is up to us. It's a simple 'take it or leave it' and get on with life, happy and cheerful!
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